Are You Into Hardcore Sex Games? Here's How to Fulfil Your Fantasies
When you are into hardcore sex, it can be difficult to find people who share your interest, so that you can fulfill your fantasies. Most people’s sexual interests are very tame and rarely extend to things like BDSM.
However, just because it is difficult to find people who’re interested in extreme sex games, that does not mean that it is impossible. In fact, with this post’s help, you will be able to find people with whom you share your interests.
Phone Sex Lines
Phone sex lines aren’t necessarily an effective way of meeting people, but they can still be good tools for expressing one’s sexual interests. The best thing about phone sex lines is that you can find dedicated domination phone sex lines, staffed by women who’re knowledgeable and interested in more extreme forms of sex. These phone sex lines will give you a chance to explore your interests a little more and discuss them with another person. Phone sex is always fun and can be a great way to get off, too. Try to find a cheap phone line to call, because they can be very addictive. The cheaper the line is, the longer you’ll be able to talk to the girl manning it.
Hiring Escorts
A highly effective way of expressing yourself sexually and exploring your interests is to hire an escort. Usually, BDSM-specific escorts require you to come to them. The reason that outcall isn’t really a thing with escorts offering more extreme forms of sex is that they need to use equipment to satisfy their customers’ desires, and therefore have to stay in one place. An escort cannot bring a table, chains, whips, handcuffs, and all sorts of other equipment with them to a client’s house.
Attending BDSM Nights
At swingers clubs, sometimes BDSM nights are held. A BDSM night is a night that’s dedicated exclusively to BDSM, and extreme forms of sex. If you are not familiar with swingers' clubs, then they are places where strangers go to have sex. More often than not, you have to be a member in order to get in. If you do not hold membership, you won’t be able to gain entry, because you won’t have undergone the various security checks members have to complete (i.e., an STD check, criminal record check, etc).
Amy who runs a BDSM store in Australia, suggests that you should only attend a BDSM night after dabbling in the scene for a few months at least. They can be quite confronting, Amy says, instead suggesting finding singles or other couples to experiment with first before going to the extremes.
Internet Forums
Internet forums can be an effective place for meeting people who’re interested in the same kinds of things as you. One of the best things about BDSM-specific forums is that the users tend to meet up in person or can recommend local sex clubs to each other. This is not usually the case with other types of sex. When signing up for such a forum, it is important not to reveal too much information about yourself. It’s much better to be discreet on sex forums. Discretion will prevent people from being able to track you down in person, without your permission.
Dedicated Hook-up Sites
Hook-up sites shouldn’t be confused with dating sites (though they often are). A hook-up site is a site that’s frequented by people interested in casual sex, not relationships. A dating site is a site that’s used by people who want long-term relationships. On hookup sites, you can openly advertise your sexual interests. If you like BDSM or extreme sex games, then you can write about your interests in your account bio. Then, if there is anybody else using the same site as you that shares your interests, they will be able to get in touch with you and arrange a meeting.
Dating Sites
Dating sites aren’t usually the best places to go when you are looking for people to have casual sex with and to fulfill your desires, but they are nonetheless worth checking out. You can register an account, write about your interests, and then focus on finding people in other places. Set your notifications to on, so that if somebody does message you, you can respond to them. You shouldn’t invest a lot of time into dating sites though, since it’s unlikely you’ll find people using them to find playmates.
Nightclubs
Some nightclubs cater exclusively to the BDSM community. Such nightclubs can be hard to find since they aren’t usually openly advertised. It is common to find people partying, talking, and having sex in such clubs. Usually, they are invitation only. However, despite how difficult they can be to find, if you are able to find one, you will most definitely enjoy yourself. In such places, there are no rules or restrictions. You can do more or less anything that you want, within reason. If you are going to attend one (after being invited) make sure that you are open, confident, and interested in experimenting.
Porn Stores
Porn stores can also be a good place to find out about the BDSM community, meet people, and even get invited to nightclubs. More often than not, the people running such stores can point you in the direction of BDSM clubs. If they aren’t able to do this, then they will at least be able to give you advice about meeting people for sex. Also, they will be able to sell you toys and equipment that you can use to pleasure yourself at home and with others. Bear in mind that most people who attend such stores are men, so you may not have a lot of luck meeting women in them.
Knowing Limits
Finally, when you are considering getting involved in the BDSM community, you need to make sure that you know what your limits are. Some elements in the BDSM community are darker than others. Make sure that you have a safe word so that if you are meeting people for sex, you can terminate things immediately. Also, ask anybody that you are having sex with for a safe word, too. A safe word gives those involved the confidence of knowing that they can stop things immediately if they want to.
BDSM and extreme sex can be a lot of fun. However, it is a type of sex that relies heavily on other people. Solo masturbation usually isn’t enough. With the guidance outlined here, you will be able to find people to have sex with who share your interest in BDSM.
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